Mom Can’t Win: Job Edition
We all know that us mamas have it rough sometimes. It’s difficult to juggle all the many things we have to do and the mommy guilt that is always lingering overhead for the things we just can’t get done. We are moms, and while we are superhuman, sometimes we have to make some really difficult decisions. At the moment, I am really struggling with working versus not working and I know I’m not alone.
I love staying home with my kiddo. If I were a millionaire, I’m not sure that I would do anything else. Being a stay-at-home mom is a dream of mine and has been since I was young. I know it isn’t as glorious as its cracked up to be, but I’d love to get to spend everyday with my son. I want to be there for every cry, laugh, sniffle, and boo boo. I want to be the first to see every new thing my little one ever does, ever. I don’t want him to ever have to go stay with a stranger so that mommy and daddy can go to work. Every moment that I’m away from him is a moment that I will never be able to get back, and that is a hard pill for me to swallow.
At the same time, I went to school for four and a half years (and took out more in loans than you or I want to discuss) to be a teacher and teaching is a passion of mine. I love it, and I think I am pretty good at it to boot. I’ve yet to find a job teaching, but I continue to search hoping that the perfect job will come available. There is something wonderful about teaching – it gives you a chance to be part of the future, to change lives for the better, and to build relationships in a way I never thought possible. It is wonderful and fulfilling career. I must admit though, part of me is apprehensive. Teachers have an incredible workload that many don’t realize. There is a ton of work done at school and then even more work put in at home. It is also physically and mentally tiring. Standing on your feet all day with few breaks is hard on the body but some of the agonizing things a teacher sees daily will absolutely rip your heart out.
What is a mom to do? Where do you compromise? If you stay home, you aren’t making any money (unless you can find an awesome work from home gig). If you go to work, you are missing out on your child’s milestones. Our solution, so far, has been for me to work part time while my husband works full time. That provides us with enough money to live, but we are both also able to be home with our baby. Of course, that isn’t a perfect option. There are things we would like to have that we can’t afford, there are moments that I miss that I would still rather be home. Sometimes, there are no perfect options. It’s hard being a mom, and this is just one of the many reasons why. But we are superhuman and we make decisions and we overcome! We are strong mamas and we will do whats best for our families.
Join the conversation! I’d love to hear how you deal with splitting your time between work and kids.