I’m Not A Perfect Wife
What is a perfect wife?
I could give you some feel good words and tell you there is no such thing as a perfect wife. I could tell you that perfection is just a figment of our imagination and means something different to each person. But let’s be honest with ourselves – 1, we already know those things and 2, as soon as you read the words “perfect wife”, an image came to your mind. You probably thought of someone like June Cleaver or Kitty Forman making their husbands food and cleaning and doing all things domestic.
For me, that image of the perfect wife would be my mom. Seriously y’all, I took her so much for granted, but I am learning everyday that she is freaking superwoman. She worked, she cooked, she cleaned, she shopped. She did everything and I never heard her complain. Half of that time she had to be a single parent because my dad worked as a towboater when I was a kid. She is pretty freaking amazing. (Mom, I know you’re reading this. Please don’t cry. I love you!) But y’all, no matter how much I want to be, I’m just not that kind of wife.
If you aren’t perfect, what kind of wife are you?
I’m the kind of wife that knows she should be cleaning, but doesn’t because the couch is much more comfy. I’m the kind of wife that likes to cook, but sometimes like for my husband to cook better. I’m the kind of wife that doesn’t know when to shut her mouth and choose a different battle. I’m the kind of wife that has a smart ass remark for everything coming my way. I’m the kind of wife that complains way more that I should about all the things that I shouldn’t. I’m the kind of wife that doesn’t know when she is pushing things a bit too far. I’m the kind of wife that takes my husband and all that he does for granted.
But I am also the kind of wife that will love my husband unconditionally. I’m the kind of wife that will laugh at every corny joke, ever. I’m the kind of wife that will stay up until too late at night and watch dumb shows that I don’t even like just to get another moment with my best friend. I’m the kind of wife that would rather not pick up a broom on Saturday, but would rather make an even bigger mess with a side of a memory or two. I’m the kind of wife that takes things to heart way too easily, but loves more passionately than you could ever imagine.
You Don’t Have to be Perfect Either!
If you can be awesome like my mama, y’all, then do it. She is seriously amazing and the embodiment of everything I strive to be. But if you’re like me, and you just don’t have that inner domestic goddess, that’s totally okay! You can be a hot mess wife, a completely imperfect wife, and still be absolutely perfect for the ones you love. You can burn every meal you make and be great. You can never pick up a mop and be great. You can argue with your husband and still be great. You are enough, mama. You may not be perfect, but you sure are fantastic!